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THE BRAIN DISEASE
June 30, 2019
Addiction is a very complicated brain disease. Many of us are naturally prone to look at an addict and say, “Wow, he doesn’t care about his family,” and “What a loser,” or “She’s so irresponsible”. These words are hurtful and show that most people do not understand what happens in the brain with addiction.
We are eager to help those with addiction issues because addiction robs so many including young people of their destiny. Alcoholics Anonymous considers addiction an allergy of the body and an obsession of the mind. Addiction means a person cannot say no and most of us will never understand what that’s like. Imagine if you were acting like a robot. Imagine if someone was in the driver’s seat of your life telling you what to do. This is what addiction does; it treats the person as if they are a robot versus a person of free will. Some twelve-year-olds take a drink and want more immediately. These people are missing a gene that protects them. Some twelve-year-olds take a drink and think, "this is poison" or "I have had enough." These people have a built-in gene that protects them.
Our brain is made up of sections that we can call colonies. An example of a colony is the colony of mobility. This section moves your limbs automatically, without you specifically thinking about it. If you’re able to walk and move easily, your mobility colony is in sync. Another example is the reasoning colony. This section helps us make good, rational decisions. Whenever a colony is being used, it lights up and can be observed on an MRI.
Recent studies from the National Institute of Health show when a person starts consuming alcohol or drugs a new colony is created. The colony was non-existent before the consumption of the substance. The colony grows over time and the more the substance is used, the more powerful the colony becomes. When the colony lights up the individual experiences craving. When this colony activates and can no longer be told ‘no’ it is called addiction.
This is how people with addiction become living robots. The addiction colony and the reasoning colony are at war. This is why addiction issues must be taken very seriously. Getting clean is not a 30-day war in rehab but a 2-year war to get the addiction colony calmed down and into a non-powerful, non-dominate state.
The 2-year war of addiction consists of both dealing with symptom management, which means to get the physical brain and the obsession of thought to calm down as well as dealing with the root cause. This can be done by creating a strong support system. Going to Alcoholics Anonymous, having a sponsor, attending addiction groups, and having the support of family and friends can help with symptom management. Eating foods that create dopamine, going to the gym, and serving in leadership positions can help the brain create dopamine where it is lacking. Lastly, dealing with the root issues is crucial to helping the addict truly recover. The way to help with this is to receive individual counseling. Here at Dream Believe Institute, we offer extensive outpatient packages with daily counseling and meetings for addicts, as well as, individual counseling sessions. If you or someone you know needs help today call 1-855-SET-FREE.
NOT HELPING IS HELPING!
July 8, 2019
Codependency is an addiction, more hidden to the common man which can be equally as challenging as addiction. Many of us have this helping disease and do not know it. One of the largest challenges is that most spouses and families of addicts do not understand the addict is suffering, with a brain disease. The person in a close relationship trying to help the addict is codependent.
Imagine a codependent wife who is dealing with a drug-addicted husband. She is unaware they are similar. While the addict is chasing the substance, the co-addict, the person who is codependent, is chasing the addict. The codependent needs the addict to need them. Being needed becomes her drug. The codependent spends copious hours, months, and even years enabling the addict by helping him, rescuing him and depending on her effectiveness at rescuing the addict for her self-worth.
In the end, the codependent is left chasing someone that can never fulfill her. She is left waiting for the addict to change, sometimes for a lifetime. She thinks the addict changing will make her happy. This never happens. She is typically left feeling resentful, mistreated, and angry. Many codependents wake up years later to see they have wasted a lifetime taking care of an addict, to be left empty with nothing and feeling all alone. Just like the addict, the codependent feels that she is unable to break free from chasing her drug without help. Being aware of the drug-the need to be needed is the first step in getting help.
The codependent has a huge benefit or reward, helping an addict. She does not have to look at herself. This person would rather be distracted than to feel the pain inside. This is why she is addicted to helping the addict. While having the pain of low self-esteem, she believes she is only worthy because she is a “doing” person instead of a “being” person. In other words, a codependent person only feels she has worth because of what she can do for others. Helping an addict gives her a false sense of self-worth. Eventually, this person will exhaust herself and feel hopeless.
The handicap of the codependent is severe and creates a delusion. A parallel thought would be, if I help a person with the disease of cancer get better, he will then see me as worthy of being loved when, in fact, no one can cure the disease. No one can save an addict; he must save himself. Only having the gift of desperation and admitting defeat can save him. The codependent must admit defeat also; she cannot save the addict. Once a codependent realizes her life is unmanageable, she can give up and make a change.
In other circumstances, many people work tirelessly to save a loved one who is an addict. While you can tell your loved one you are there for them, they must decide to get help for themselves. Al-Anon (which is a group for those who have an addict they love), codependency groups, and licensed professional counseling are great ways to help a codependent get the help they need.
The cycle of addiction and codependency is much like the cycle of a dog chasing its tail. It is imperative that the addict, the co-addict, and the family of the addict all get the help that they need from the brain disease of addiction and the helping disease of codependency. It is essential each one learn to sit in their own skin, to realize they are an individual person, with a specific design, for a greater purpose. If you are an addict, take responsibility and do what you need to do and get help for yourself. If you are a codependent stop taking care of the responsibility of others and take care of yourself. Tell your addict loved one that you cannot help him. Tell the addict to go get help. Stop helping and pray to the only one who can save him for only God can save an addict. If you need help with addiction or codependency call 1-855- SET-FREE!
SETTING YOURSELF FREE!
by Rick Amato
July 18, 2019
The deadliest emotion to anyone suffering from addiction is resentment. To say that since my daughter’s tragic death I have struggled with it just doesn’t quite capture the intensity of my own personal battle. The trouble is that while resentment, revenge, and recompense are perfectly normal and natural instincts, holding all of them in your soul is like taking poison and hoping the offending party dies!
In the prayer Jesus taught us to pray we say, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.” In reality, this simple teaching is the resolution of this human conundrum and the key to spiritual evolution and growth.
When we forgive those who have harmed us or those we love, we are in essence setting ourselves free. It takes at least two people to have a prison. The secret I have found is letting go of the age-old lie “just forgive and forget.” That is impossible. Everything in this dimension from the single celled flat worm to the legendary working of Albert Einstein’s brain to the most powerful computer on earth- works by memory. The grace and power, the key to successful forgiveness, is simple: attach new meaning to the trauma that happened to you.
Simple does NOT mean easy ! Every day my wife Susan and I provide mental health therapy and clinical clergy counseling to people with horrific trauma. To watch them find the new meaning in their trauma and rise above it to help others with the same trauma is priceless. She and I are here to provide counseling for you and your loved ones struggling with addiction often rooted in trauma and resentment. For help
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by Susan Amato
August 12, 2019
Just like the caterpillar changed form when he stopped eating, hung upside down, spun in a cocoon, and waited until he emerged as a butterfly, we must stop and undergo the process of becoming our new self. What happens during the waiting time in a cocoon is fascinating. The old body is broken down and then it turns into something new. The process a caterpillar must undertake, to appear as a beautiful butterfly, is the same one we need to take. We must get rid of the way we were conditioned and become a new person-a genuine person.
If a butterfly comes out of the cocoon too early, it is able to pollinate the flowers one time, and then it loses strength and dies. It does not live as the beautiful butterfly was meant to live. It must come to complete transformation to have the strength to stay alive and fulfill its purpose.
To create a perfect insect, a moth has to force its way through the neck of a cocoon with hours and hours of intense struggle. The pressure is what gives life to his wings. If he does not undergo the pressure and comes out too early, his wings will not be developed, and he will die.
Just like these insects, we must go through the transformation process to see our dreams come true. We must undergo pressure as well. It is okay to have gratitude for your hardships. If we don’t undergo pressure, we will not be strong enough for what is to come.
Having your dreams come true does not come from a rainbow with a leprechaun at the end of it waiting to hand you a pot of gold, just as much as babies do not come hand delivered by storks. Having your dreams come true requires a lot of work. The transformation process can be very stressful.
Sometimes we try to lessen that pressure for others or ourselves. The times when we attempt to lessen the pressure for others, we enable them to be weak. When we enable people, it is like cutting the moth out of the cocoon too early and setting him up to die as he will have no strength of his own to fly. This is why it is important for us to allow others to go through their transformation process, as it is equally as important, we go through ours.
Every individual person must go through their own transformation process. Transformation will not come by another person changing; transformation comes when you change. Your inventor made a showpiece when he made you, certainly a piece worth revealing. If you are in need of transformation to reveal your true self, get help by calling 1-855-SET-FREE!
A WORD TO SINGLE MOTHERS
by Susan Amato
November 23, 2019
THE FAITHFUL PROVIDER
One of the scariest seasons of my life was when I was a single mother of three small children for seven years, however, the profound experiences have truly renewed and restored me. One month, I realized I was one thousand dollars short of my bills that were due in seven days. We had no cash and the credit cards were maxed due to the hefty costs of being sent to court over and over again. I prayed and said, “God you are my Husband and you are our Father. You can afford us. I have calculated all the money coming from Maryland phone sessions and the Michigan counseling center and we will be one thousand dollars short in seven days. Please provide us with one thousand dollars in the next seven days.” This is an unbelievably true story. Within the next 24 hours, WITHOUT me telling anyone, three people called me asking if I needed money. I humbly said yes, and they sent checks in the mail that totaled nine hundred and seventy-five dollars which I received in the mail within seven days!
At first, I felt humiliated and embarrassed to receive money from others, until I saw the children cheering when they opened the mail at the mailbox. We stood amazed as we knew God truly cared for us and provided for us. He was the best Husband any woman could ever ask for and He was indeed the best Father. In a prayer of gratitude, with tears in my eyes, I said, “Thank you. I can’t believe you provided for us like that.” Then I proceeded to say, “I just opened the last bill of twenty-five dollars due to a hospital; it’s okay we are only twenty-five dollars short of the one thousand. I’ll pay them back next week. It’s ok God. Thank you so much! You gave us nine hundred and seventy-five of the one thousand dollars I asked for!” And what happened next, I will never forget.
I opened the last piece of mail, which I knew was a check for sixty dollars from a lady I did work within Maryland. This money was already calculated as money coming for bills. I stood in astonishment as I opened up the card to see it was a check for eighty-five dollars. She wrote a check for twenty-five dollars more than she owed! The card said, “Thank you for all your help, Susan. I am sending you an extra $25. God told me to give it to you.”
While my uncontrollable tears were flowing, my children were praising God. We received exactly one thousand dollars in seven days and every single bill we had got paid. I knew my children and I had the greatest love of all-The Love of One who just wants someone to love, God! We knew we had the Love of a Husband and the Love of a Father. There are countless stories like this that I now have proof and know-God truly loves us! The lack of money could never replace the priceless lessons we learned of faith. And there were so many. God always did and still does for me, what I could have never done myself. If you are a single mother, I understand as I have been there. If you need help, it will be my honor to help you. Don't hesitate to call 1-855-SET-FREE. I have a heart for Single Mothers.
THE PRICE OF BEING KIND
by Susan Amato
JANUARY 9, 2020
Many people mistake codependency for being kind. I heard my whole life from my father, “Always be kind.” The problem with this statement was that I believed it to be something it wasn’t. Unfortunately, at times in my life, I considered myself the queen of codependency. My life was spent being nice to people, not kind. I’m sure you have met the people who give everyone the benefit of the doubt, consider everyone’s feelings more important than their own, and rarely argue because they crave peace. Half of my life was spent like this. This type of thinking left me compromised in my relationships, resentful, angry, burned out, with many regrets. I realized everyone’s feelings and needs had mattered except mine. Plagued by codependency, I had to learn the hard way. While my dad was right, “Always be kind," kind did not mean what I thought it did.
According to Merriam Webster, the word kind is a group united by common traits. This would be like a group of individuals or instances sharing common traits. Kindness reflects a trait which reflects truth. When we decide to people please, it is not love, if it is not the truth. The most loving and kind thing we can do for another person is to be real by reflecting the truth. That is kind. Telling people what they want to hear and doing things for others, that we don’t really want to do, is living a lie and is not kind.
Think about it like this, being nice is for those who are scared of conflict. It has nothing to do with spirituality. REAL KINDNESS is about being honest with ourselves and others. If we want to be authentic, we must live truth. Truth will lead us down the road of setting safe boundaries for ourselves in our relationships with others. This will lead us to an everlasting freedom that being nice can’t give. When I think of my dad’s saying, “Always be kind," I think do yourself and others a favor by speaking the truth with love. This is the ultimate kindness that can save us from living years of unfulfilled dreams. And this is how we can truly love ourselves.
Coronavirus- An experience where I nearly died. This information could save a life!
by Susan Amato
April 8, 2020
In January 2020 I believe I almost died. It was a four to six-week battle. I woke up one day in the morning from my sleep and the entire left side of my body was numb. I panicked to my husband who began rubbing my back (oxygen) and I got temporary feeling back. I figured maybe I slept on my side wrong so the next day we proceeded to go on a scheduled trip we had to Lynchburg, VA. While in Lynchburg my left side went numb a second time and once again massaging it brought me temporary feeling (oxygen) back in my body. The third time my body went numb was way worse, and massaging it wasn’t helping to restore feeling this time. I thought I would have to go to the hospital, but we were leaving Lynchburg the next day and I didn’t want to. I took an aspirin (which is an anti-inflammatory and can prevent blood clotting) and then I took Tulsi Holy Basil- an organic herb I got from amazon where the bottle said would help with stress. (I had some in my purse) I told my husband I don’t know how, but I believe holy basil saved my life. A few months later I would learn how. Within 5 minutes of taking Tulsi holy basil I came out of the TIA- Transient Ischemic Attack (when a whole side of your body goes numb) however I was shaking all night and very very weak. Later I found out Holy Basil is good for carrying oxygen through the body. In months to come, I would find out more.
Along with numbness and tingling, I had back spasms. My neck felt tight. My hip kept going numb. Then I noticed my right arm would go numb, my right leg would tingle. My symptoms were all over the place. All I knew is my body was tingling, going numb and I felt like I could pass out or have seizures. I said something is not right with my brain (felt like an inflamed brain & fog, along with confusion). I knew what the brain felt like before having a seizure because years before I had a seizure in the delivery of my first child. The day after we got home from Lynchburg, I had a fourth TIA where my left side went numb again. Once again massaging it (oxygen) helped but I felt extremely weak. The day after that which was day 7 since the first TIA, I told my husband I am afraid I could die I better go to the hospital.
When we got to the hospital my blood pressure was 181/117 and they said I had stroke symptoms. They gave me a strong blood pressure pill which brought my blood pressure to normal and likely reduced inflammation yet the next day there ended up being no evidence on MRI, MRE or anything proving stroke. The blood test in the hospital that was abnormal was low red hemoglobin. (which means low iron) Iron is responsible for carrying oxygen to all of your organs. The other blood test that was low was the lymph auto blood test. This test being low can indicate a virus or infection. The hospital gave me a blood pressure medicine prescription and sent me home. After my hospital stay, I went to many specialists. My brain and heart were checked, nothing. Many specialized blood tests for things like cancer, nothing. My mom said, "Honey maybe you have some type of fluke virus." And I agreed, maybe! We had not heard about the coronavirus yet. In addition, I kept googling how to lower homocysteine levels. It's like I intuitively knew I had inflammation. I began eating things like ginger, cinnamon, and things that may lower homocysteine levels. Later I would find out the coronavirus seems to create a cytokine storm. This is an inflammatory response that can get out of control creating bloodclots, which can have an adverse effect on iron.
Well, I continued to have numbness all over my body and kept feeling like I needed oxygen. My husband got his old cpap machine out where I just put it on my face many times a day because it made me feel better and frankly made the numbness better. Several times in the night I woke up gasping for air so I would hold the cpap mask to my mouth and breathe in oxygen during the night. I was desperate and it was truly awful and extremely scary. All the while I remember when I got home from the hospital taking holy basil again daily because I felt it was the only thing that had made me feel better. By now I had suffered severe vertigo for 10 days where I literally had to hold walls to walk to the bathroom and was getting weaker by the day. All of a sudden, around the fourth day of taking holy basil and after paying for a full body massage (oxygen) I began to feel 50 % better as if a miracle had taken place. Then I thought if I can get to 50% better could I get to 100%?
From that day I googled, “what would help make my red blood cells get higher?” since it was the only thing that was proven low on my blood tests from the hospital beside the test proving virus or infection. It said deficiencies in iron, B12, and Folic acid could cause hemoglobin to score low. These vitamins are responsible for carrying oxygen through our bodies to our organs. After I took holy basil 3-4 days along with now taking Iron, B-12 and Folic acid supplements for ONLY 1 day I felt a drastic change. I felt 75% better! The left side of my body never went numb again and most of the vertigo was gone. I was still weak but nothing like before, so I continued faithfully taking my vitamins. Once they got in my system which google said would take 2-3 weeks, I have felt like I returned to 95% well. I still had some back pressure and pain for another month which was probably due to an injury because of the lack of oxygen my body had suffered for so long. Each day it is getting better and now most of my back pain is gone.
Weeks went by and I asked the good Lord what had been wrong with me? I wasn’t satisfied with the idea of vitamin deficiency. What did I have in Jan? One night I had a dream and authority people came to me and told me in my dream, “When you went to the Trump rally in January of this year, you contracted the coronavirus.” I argued with them and didn’t believe them. I said but I had none of the symptoms. They proceeded to say, “Remember after you got out of the hospital your husband got pneumonia.” I said yes, I do! When I woke up, I thought I have been watching too much of the news yet sure enough when I looked at my pictures, I had been at the Trump rally in Jan. I told my daughter the dream and she said and remember Andrew the youngest at the same time you were sick mom, he had a cold for a month? I said oh yeah, he did. Well, I forgot about it, until a couple of days later. I decided to google coronavirus and stroke symptoms. There were articles from 5 countries including two from ours that said patients were coming in with neurological issues like stroke symptoms with numbness, tingling, and seizures. There was no fever, no evidence on scans but they all tested positive for the coronavirus. These patients also complained of back issues and they didn’t understand why. Then it was a week later that I read an article which I have enclosed below that to me explained everything I went through.
The article is saying that hospitals have been putting people on ventilators because they can’t breathe which is treating the symptom, not the cause. Most people’s lungs were actually working at normal capacity. Now they have been studying what the virus is doing. The virus is attacking a person’s iron, so the iron is unable to transport oxygen to the organs. This is why people’s bodies are shutting down even when they are on a ventilator. The virus is eating up or depleting the person's iron. It is as if they die of carbon monoxide poisoning. When I put two and two together of my situation that is exactly what happened to me. My body was not getting oxygen. So, each time my body was massaged it was literally putting oxygen in my bloodstream.
To be very clear I am not advocating anyone take iron unless directed by a doctor. Iron is a mineral that should only be taken if directed by a doctor if needed. Iron is stored in our bodies and if we take iron supplements and do not need it could cause toxins in the body.
Later I finally found out how Tulsi holy basil could have saved my life. After studying more about this Indian plant, I found out that the Tulsi plant (holy basil) is an anti-inflammatory that may thin the blood that kills both viruses and bacteria and stops the replication of viruses. That’s why it saved my life. After I took 3-4 days of it, I no longer had full body attacks and after 24 hours of beginning iron, b12 and folic acid supplements which is responsible for carrying oxygen through my body, my body could now breath and I never had vertigo again. Unbeknownst to me, I ended up taking exactly what I needed to fight off the coronavirus and replenish my iron (oxygen levels).
I share this with you in hopes that it will save lives. If the coronavirus is destroying red hemoglobin, ventilators are just treating the symptom, not the cause. If my experience helps just one person, it was worth the time it took to write this.
In addition, you may have heard if you contract the coronavirus not to take Advil or Ibuprofen? Guess what Advil and Ibuprofen can deplete iron. That could be why Tylenol works better. Also, you may have heard vitamin C is good to take if you have the coronavirus. Guess what? Vitamin C helps us absorb iron.
I have not taken a test to prove that I had the coronavirus in January. All I know is what happened to me is like the experience of so many who have suffered or died from this virus. CNN announced today that COVID was sweeping our land already in January.
** I am not a medical doctor and I am not advocating to take certain pills or vitamins. This is for information purposes only. I am only sharing my experience. Ask a medical doctor before taking anything. There are two articles below you can click on to see the technicalities from medical persons of what they are finding regarding the corona depleting iron and creating a lack of oxygen.